When people disrespect you or do not treat you well, it is easy to take their behavior personally, to blame yourself and think you have anything to do with someone else’s behavior. Taking things personally is emotionally draining, and an unnecessary, constant reevaluation of your self-esteem. There’s a difference between being reflective and constantly taking slights personally, one is productive and lends itself to self improvement, the other is the opposite. Not taking things personally gives you more control over how you respond, your emotions and your energy level. Here are a few ways to stop taking things personally:
Stop Worrying About What Other People Think
At the end of the day, it really is not anyone’s business what people think of you, or anything else. You should worry about what you think of yourself, and what people you know love and care about you think of you, and that’s it. Strangers and aquaintances volunteering their opinion of you has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. The sooner you do not care what other people think, the more liberated you will feel, and you will have more of a sense of self.
Know Your Worth
You’re not going to believe what other people think and say about you, when you know who you are, and you like who you are. Having self-confidence, and knowing your self-worth is the foundation on which everything else is built: your achievements, your relationships, your ability to keep going when life and work gets tough. Doing the work to have self-confidence, and self-worth is the best work you will put in. The dividends will show in every aspect of your life, personally and professionally.
Don’t Jump To Conclusions
According to Psychology Today, when people make a judgement about you, or critiques, they are rarely about you. “In fact, it’s almost always about them, their issues, their needs, and their desire to control you and/or a situation,” writes Dr. Abigail Brenner. To help manage your response to confrontation, know what you’re sensitive about, and what triggers your emotions so you can prepare yourself if someone mentions them.